I no longer want to try to fit myself into one of these categories. I want to view my children as individual human beings who respond to different things in different ways. My goal as a parent is to know my children as people and guide them accordingly. I want to teach them the difference between right and wrong, and by example lead them with good values, and moral standards. I also want to teach them the life lessons, they need to know, but I do not want to do that in some premixed, one size fits all setup.
We as people all learn things differently, respond to discipline and responsibility's differently....children are people they do these things to. I want to teach my children about life in a way, that fits with their nature and character.
I believe that I will feel less like I am making "Mommy mistakes" or not doing things the "right way" If I stop trying to parent my children by what I read, see on T.V. or observe in other parents around me and focus on parenting in a way that fits my own nature and that of my children. I also believe that this will teach my children to do things in a way that feels natural to them, which will breed self-confidence and individuality in them.Yes there are things in life that you have to do, that might not always be in your nature or character to do but if you know yourself well enough, you can find a way to accomplish them in a way that is "right" for you. Failure should be measured by what we don't do that we are capable of doing, not what we don't do the same way as everyone else.