Not So Terrible Two's Part 2 _Taking it Back !

He's formulating his take over, look at him.

 So do you guys remember when I posted this post where I rambled on about how I didn't understand why people thought the two's were so terrible and how my two year old is perfect and blah blah blah, well I jinxed myself in a big way. Apparently when they hit 2 and 3/4 it kicks in, the fit throwing, the not listening, the I can do everything myself , but not really I'm just going to make a constant mess and break as many things as possible insanity goes into overdrive. If you value your sanity at all I suggest that three days before they turn 2 and 3/4 you find a military preschool and send them packing !!! There is not technique, no child safety lock, no Super Nanny strong enough to stop them from doing whatever it is they want to do. While they may still look cute and so very cherub and innocent like, they are secretly planing a take over , trust me, I am telling you this for your own good.
While I do still enjoy watching his little personality form, and love seeing him learning so much all the time, I just now realize why people look at you with such pity when you say you have a two year old. I just thought it would be good to warn other Mother's who may have read my original post and been horribly mislead.

Ps. Did I mention I have a teenager also.......Lord help me, I need a nap

Pss. *disclaimer-I really do love my children and do not think you should send your two year old away , I'm just trying to get the word out to prepare yourself.......it's coming !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ten Great Things About Being Mommy

1.) I get to witness all the firsts , first time they lose a tooth, first time they tie their own shoes or dress themselves etc.
2.) I get to buy Sponge Bob Gogurt and pretend it's for them.
3.) I get to kiss three amazing guys goodnight every night (without getting a bad reputation ).
4.) I get to be the one they tell when something good happens.
5.) I get to hold them when they are sad, sleepy or hurt and I get to feel them relax and feel safe when I do.
6.) I get to say "Because I'm the Mom and I said so" .
7.) I get to to be the one who will drive them to their first homecoming dance.
8.) I get to hear all the funny stuff they say and the one who calls Nana so she can laugh to.
9.) I get to read Green Eggs and Ham 3 times a night .
10.) I get to be Joey and Isaiah's Mommy and that in itself is the best thing I will ever get to do, experience, feel, accomplish or be in my life.

Gaining Focus

So right now all the boxes and clutter of the new house is consuming my mind and sending me into some manic, o.c.d like craziness, that is not pretty whatsoever. I know that it is very important that I get things organized, so that we can have some resemblance of a normal routine life again, but these things will come and in the meantime I am losing focus on what is truly and long term important to me, so I have decided to make a bring me back to my center list............

• First and foremost it is important to me that my kids always feel loved, listened to , and like a part of whatever is happening in our home.
• It is also important to me that both my kids have individual time with me, where we are learning, playing, or just being together without distraction .
• It is important to me that my husband and I talk about or lives, our plans, our kids and try to make common goals for each of these things.
• It is important for me that our home be a place people know they can go and feel comfortable, loved, and welcome.
• It is important to me that my kids learn to be grateful for what we have, and learn to always give thanks for it.

Just thinking about what is really important, in the grand scheme of things can make some of the things that have  been consuming my mind and actions seem pretty little in comparison. I know they are things that have to get done, but I also know that if I look at this list of what is really important everyday before I start my daily mania, everything has to be just right, right now tirade, my day will be planned very differently.

Ain't Nobody Happy

I have officially managed to take the old saying "If Mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy" and turn in to a working theory. You see, I tend to get a little well ....... I guess we will call it frustrated, when I can't get things right. This morning everything was moving along just fine, there was even laughing and teasing, and the usual Sunday relaxation . I got on to the computer and started trying to tweak a few things for this here little blog , couldn't really get it to do what I wanted it to do, and started getting a little frustrated, but was still ok. I was taking a break from the whole tweaking of the blog thing , trying to ward off said frustration, so I decided to check my e-mail and what did I find, a review of my blog, now don't get me wrong there was good things, but of course, that is not what this post is about or what I in my already defeated frustrated state of mind focused on. So what is any reasonable woman who can't seem to get something on the computer right to do, oh yeah that's right, spread the grumpiness around a bit. Me being a reasonable woman, this is exactly what I did, I got snotty with the hubby and became less happy go lucky Sunday Mom with the kids. Needless to say it did not help me come up with a solution to my blog tweaking issues . So now I am still frustrated with this computer, and instead of walking away from it and joing in on my family laughter and teasing, I have managed to completely squash out the good moods, that is about the only successful thing I've managed all day . I now need to change my attitude because, I would like to have a happy day and according to the saying, the happiness around here is riding on me (I feel no pressure really none at all). Off to my trend setting wish me luck !

An Insiders view

My brain is a very cluttered place to be (no I'm not bragging about how smart I am), it is a constant clutter, swirlie mix up of things I want to do, and things I need to do, and trying to find ways to merge the two. So here is a condensed down blogger friendly view of what is going through my head all the time..........

• Oh I need to get some table time work ready for Bubba, oh yea and some picture schedules, and call his   insurance people and ask about that one thing, oh and I really need to do some research on how to dispute his current I.E.P. .
• I want to play with all that new crafty stuff I got for me and Isaiah to play with last night
• I want to write on my blog, read other peoples blogs, and maybe stop by Pinterest and find a whole bunch of other things I want to do
• Ugghhh go in there and wash those dishes
• Spend some time with my husband (time that we actually talk and hang out, not the usual, he is studying and watching T.V. and I am doing something on the computer or for one of the boys
• Wait I just remembered I wanted to call my Mom and tell her about that cute thing Isaiah did earlier, and about how good Joey did at school today.
• I really want to call Melissa (my BFF) and make a date
• Wait I have to feed those boys again (3 times a day really boys, now your just being spoiled) 
• Bubba needs a shower, Isaiah needs a bath and his fingernails cut
• I told Joey I would help him clean his room, I should rearrange his furniture while I'm in there
• Man I've had to pee for an hour, speaking of pee, I should be encouraging Isaiah to sit on his potty more
• I should work on some of my blogging stuff while they nap, or get some housework done while they are napping or hang out with my Hubby without them for a while 
• Is the electric bill due today ? I will look it up....oh there is a new article from the Autism Society , and 500 links to other things I wanted to read about, I should check my FB while I'm on here

Does your brain look anything like this ? If it does you either have some serious ADD issues or you are a Mom, who also happens to be a wife, who also happens to have friends, and were not hatched from an egg so (if you are as fortunate as I am, and I hope you are) you have a Mom , Dad, Siblings and lots of other family you care about and are in your everyday thoughts. How do you balance this all out ? How do you keep your brain from exploding (in which case you would have to think about how you would clean up the brain mess from your walls and floor)? I need to figure this out, which is overwhelming a bit cause that will add to the swirl in my cranium at least till I perfect the art of growing 6 more brains 20 more hands, and 15 more hours in my day........Oh wait I need to put a load of laundry in, before Joey gets off the bus.............

PS. I'm very sorry if you were mislead into thinking this post would end with some awesome idea on how to achieve balance in your life. I wanted it to I really did, but yea I got nothin, I'll throw it in the swirl and let you know if anything comes up.

Don't be Jealous

I know today is going to be a good day and here is why......

1st my husband made me these for breakfast this morning ........

Cake batter pancakes, oh yeah, like I said don't be jealous (ok you  can be a little jealous). This picture is from Betty Crocker's website where we got the recipe.

2nd my kids are going to go spend the night at their Nanna and Pepaw's . Don't get me wrong I love my kids and really do enjoy spending time with them. But spending a little time without them definitely can't hurt. So once nap time is over we're packing them up and sending them off . My husband and I are going to have  alone time which usually goes something like this......

1st 1/2 hour kids are gone- dancing and singing with joy

Next 2 hours-"what do you wanna do" ? "I don't know what do you wanna do" ? "You wanna get something to eat" ? "yeah we should go out since we don't have the kids" "Where do you wanna go" ? "I don't know where do you wanna go" etc........

Next hour-"you go ahead and get in the shower first" "No really you go ahead"

3 hours later- "You wanna just get carry out "? "Yeah but what" ?

2 hours later- We finally actually order the carry out, sit on the couch and eat, and discuss how much we miss the kids .

Next morning- "Man I hope they keep the kids till at least evening". "Yeah me to, what do you wanna do"?

And last but not least thing I don't want you to be jealous of.........
My sink is broke so I don't have to can't do the dishes .

Parenting Style

  With a world full of, talk shows, parenting magazines, and yes Mommy bloggers, we are bombarded by parenting advice everyday. We are fit into parent labels i.e. helicopter moms, green moms, under-protective, overprotective, hands on , stay at home, working Mommy.....etc. We have come to a point that we are no longer just parents, our goal is no longer simply to raise our children, it is to raise our children in whatever style is in fashion right now.

Can I have this Dance ?

 Do you dance with your kids, your husband , your best friend ? Do you dance in your kitchen, or while getting your kids ready for school ? If you answered no to any or all of these..........stop reading this now and go dance (don't forget to come back when the dancing is over, I'll wait ).

Attention Germs

We have all been taken down by germs in my house this week, nasty no good useless germs !

Not Guilty

Lately I have had this constant feeling of guilt following me around, it is stuck in my gut and head. No I did not rob a bank or mug an old lady. What I having been feeling guilty about is much more complicated (but probably less exciting)than that.

Haircuts and chainsaws

Sitting on the couch today trying to get rid of a massive headache, when suddenly I hear screaming in the bathroom. I sit up a little straighter because for some reason that's what we do when we are trying to listen closer, as if there is some connection to good posture and hearing.

Not So Terrible Twos !

I just realized that Tink is almost two and a half, and so far, I can really say that I enjoy this age allot ! I was worried, with everyone talking about the terrible two's and all but either my Tink is behind on his terrible mark, or he didn't get the memo about turning from cute and precious baby, to horrible bratty toddler on the day he turned two.

Myth Buster

 I am a stay at home Mom so most people assume that I do crafts, and have play dates, while wearing a perfectly pressed polo shirt all day. Well most people would be wrong, I have tried to do some crafts a few times , but I am not very crafty and I have the attention span of a very small housefly.

Three Times The Stink

I live in a house with two stinky little boys and one stinky husband. I mean stinky in the ornery, rotten, cute way, not in the Oh my gosh did you take a shower this week kinda way (though that may apply sometimes also). When you live in a house with this much male influence there are certain things you should know.......

• No one wants to talk about their feelings (or yours)
• There will be injuries on an hour to hour basis
• You will never get any junk food to yourself unless you eat in the car on the way home from the grocery store (you can try to hide it if you want but they will find it oh yes they will)
• Bodily noises are not a source of embarrassment , but a source of amusement and even pride
• It is extremely important to learn how to make a Hot Wheel ramp out of just about anything if you want to have any chance of hanging out with the cool crowd
• But most importantly you should know, if you live with boys anything like mine, your heart will always be full.