Lovin Is What I Got

So there is this really important guy, we usually call him Natedawg , he is my childhood friend, Bubba's "best homie" , Tinks Daddy, and my Husband.Today is his birthday I want to give him a million presents , but since I can't really afford that, I at least want him to know he is being thought of and that is why I am writing a list of Ten Things I Want My Hubby to Know on His Birthday (and every other day)........

1. You are one of the most forgiving people I have ever meant, you never hold a grudge against me, even when I deserve it.
2. I like that when we are just hanging out on the porch or laying in our bed talking, that I can laugh and be silly, or cry and either way you are right there with me.
3. Nothing in this world makes me happier than when I see you laughing and playing with our boys
4. I appreciate all the little things you do for us everyday, and wish I showed you that more.
5. You love Bubba without question, you are his Daddy , and I know that because you show it in the way you care for him, the same as you do Tink and I.
6. I love days when you make big dinner's and invite friends and family over to share them with us.
7. I am proud of you for wanting to get an education and sticking with it no matter how hard it has been, because you want to take care of us.
8. Our boys get to have a Daddy who is involved in their everyday life, and does not look at them as Mommy's job and that is an extraordinary thing to have. 
9. I'm thankful that you never gave up on me even though their was 20 years in between our first kiss and our second.
10. You are Loved !!!!!!!!!

Gaining Focus

So right now all the boxes and clutter of the new house is consuming my mind and sending me into some manic, o.c.d like craziness, that is not pretty whatsoever. I know that it is very important that I get things organized, so that we can have some resemblance of a normal routine life again, but these things will come and in the meantime I am losing focus on what is truly and long term important to me, so I have decided to make a bring me back to my center list............

• First and foremost it is important to me that my kids always feel loved, listened to , and like a part of whatever is happening in our home.
• It is also important to me that both my kids have individual time with me, where we are learning, playing, or just being together without distraction .
• It is important to me that my husband and I talk about or lives, our plans, our kids and try to make common goals for each of these things.
• It is important for me that our home be a place people know they can go and feel comfortable, loved, and welcome.
• It is important to me that my kids learn to be grateful for what we have, and learn to always give thanks for it.

Just thinking about what is really important, in the grand scheme of things can make some of the things that have  been consuming my mind and actions seem pretty little in comparison. I know they are things that have to get done, but I also know that if I look at this list of what is really important everyday before I start my daily mania, everything has to be just right, right now tirade, my day will be planned very differently.

Ain't Nobody Happy

I have officially managed to take the old saying "If Mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy" and turn in to a working theory. You see, I tend to get a little well ....... I guess we will call it frustrated, when I can't get things right. This morning everything was moving along just fine, there was even laughing and teasing, and the usual Sunday relaxation . I got on to the computer and started trying to tweak a few things for this here little blog , couldn't really get it to do what I wanted it to do, and started getting a little frustrated, but was still ok. I was taking a break from the whole tweaking of the blog thing , trying to ward off said frustration, so I decided to check my e-mail and what did I find, a review of my blog, now don't get me wrong there was good things, but of course, that is not what this post is about or what I in my already defeated frustrated state of mind focused on. So what is any reasonable woman who can't seem to get something on the computer right to do, oh yeah that's right, spread the grumpiness around a bit. Me being a reasonable woman, this is exactly what I did, I got snotty with the hubby and became less happy go lucky Sunday Mom with the kids. Needless to say it did not help me come up with a solution to my blog tweaking issues . So now I am still frustrated with this computer, and instead of walking away from it and joing in on my family laughter and teasing, I have managed to completely squash out the good moods, that is about the only successful thing I've managed all day . I now need to change my attitude because, I would like to have a happy day and according to the saying, the happiness around here is riding on me (I feel no pressure really none at all). Off to my trend setting wish me luck !

An Insiders view

My brain is a very cluttered place to be (no I'm not bragging about how smart I am), it is a constant clutter, swirlie mix up of things I want to do, and things I need to do, and trying to find ways to merge the two. So here is a condensed down blogger friendly view of what is going through my head all the time..........

• Oh I need to get some table time work ready for Bubba, oh yea and some picture schedules, and call his   insurance people and ask about that one thing, oh and I really need to do some research on how to dispute his current I.E.P. .
• I want to play with all that new crafty stuff I got for me and Isaiah to play with last night
• I want to write on my blog, read other peoples blogs, and maybe stop by Pinterest and find a whole bunch of other things I want to do
• Ugghhh go in there and wash those dishes
• Spend some time with my husband (time that we actually talk and hang out, not the usual, he is studying and watching T.V. and I am doing something on the computer or for one of the boys
• Wait I just remembered I wanted to call my Mom and tell her about that cute thing Isaiah did earlier, and about how good Joey did at school today.
• I really want to call Melissa (my BFF) and make a date
• Wait I have to feed those boys again (3 times a day really boys, now your just being spoiled) 
• Bubba needs a shower, Isaiah needs a bath and his fingernails cut
• I told Joey I would help him clean his room, I should rearrange his furniture while I'm in there
• Man I've had to pee for an hour, speaking of pee, I should be encouraging Isaiah to sit on his potty more
• I should work on some of my blogging stuff while they nap, or get some housework done while they are napping or hang out with my Hubby without them for a while 
• Is the electric bill due today ? I will look it up....oh there is a new article from the Autism Society , and 500 links to other things I wanted to read about, I should check my FB while I'm on here

Does your brain look anything like this ? If it does you either have some serious ADD issues or you are a Mom, who also happens to be a wife, who also happens to have friends, and were not hatched from an egg so (if you are as fortunate as I am, and I hope you are) you have a Mom , Dad, Siblings and lots of other family you care about and are in your everyday thoughts. How do you balance this all out ? How do you keep your brain from exploding (in which case you would have to think about how you would clean up the brain mess from your walls and floor)? I need to figure this out, which is overwhelming a bit cause that will add to the swirl in my cranium at least till I perfect the art of growing 6 more brains 20 more hands, and 15 more hours in my day........Oh wait I need to put a load of laundry in, before Joey gets off the bus.............

PS. I'm very sorry if you were mislead into thinking this post would end with some awesome idea on how to achieve balance in your life. I wanted it to I really did, but yea I got nothin, I'll throw it in the swirl and let you know if anything comes up.

Don't be Jealous

I know today is going to be a good day and here is why......

1st my husband made me these for breakfast this morning ........

Cake batter pancakes, oh yeah, like I said don't be jealous (ok you  can be a little jealous). This picture is from Betty Crocker's website where we got the recipe.

2nd my kids are going to go spend the night at their Nanna and Pepaw's . Don't get me wrong I love my kids and really do enjoy spending time with them. But spending a little time without them definitely can't hurt. So once nap time is over we're packing them up and sending them off . My husband and I are going to have  alone time which usually goes something like this......

1st 1/2 hour kids are gone- dancing and singing with joy

Next 2 hours-"what do you wanna do" ? "I don't know what do you wanna do" ? "You wanna get something to eat" ? "yeah we should go out since we don't have the kids" "Where do you wanna go" ? "I don't know where do you wanna go" etc........

Next hour-"you go ahead and get in the shower first" "No really you go ahead"

3 hours later- "You wanna just get carry out "? "Yeah but what" ?

2 hours later- We finally actually order the carry out, sit on the couch and eat, and discuss how much we miss the kids .

Next morning- "Man I hope they keep the kids till at least evening". "Yeah me to, what do you wanna do"?

And last but not least thing I don't want you to be jealous of.........
My sink is broke so I don't have to can't do the dishes .

I Do (but only if we can do it my way)

So I have talked to you about being a Mommy , and a family, but not so much about being a wife. I am most of the time fairly cofident in my ability to be a Mommy, a wife not so much,